Frequently Asked Questions
Below you’ll find some frequently asked questions by current and prospective clients. If you have any other questions, please feel free to contact Barbara@ClergyLifeCoaching.com
What is Life Coaching?
Coaching guides people to move from where they are to where they want to be. Coaching looks towards the future, not the past. Coaching is not therapy.
• The focus is on the future
• The relationship is typically long-term and
• Your goals, dreams and visions drive the action
What is Christian Life Coaching?
Christian coaching guides people from where they are to where God wants them to be. Coaches have no agenda, no personal investment in a client taking one path versus another. Instead, coaches will listen for and focus on the gap between where a client is now and where the client senses God is calling them to be.
How is coaching different from mentoring/consulting?
Mentors/consultants are hired because of their expertise in a given area. They provide information and give direction and advice to clients. By contrast, coaches do not necessarily have expertise in an area in which a client wants to grow. Their role, instead, is to ask powerful, probing questions which enable clients to discover their own answers. In a sense, coaches help clients to hear themselves more clearly and gain a greater sense of what God is speaking to their spirits. They then help them develop plans and take action to ensure follow-through.
How is coaching different from therapy/counseling?
Therapists/counselors are also hired for their expertise. They have specialized training and are skilled in uncovering underlying reasons for dysfunction and debilitating conditions such as depression, anxiety and other mood and thoughts disorders. Coaching on the other hand is about stability and growth. Whereas therapy and counseling are primarily about the past and present, coaching is primarily about the future. A person in need of healing is not yet ready for coaching and should be referred to a therapist. The following chart provides a helpful side-by-side comparison of therapy/counseling and coaching:
|Insight oriented||Action oriented|
|Focus on past and present||Focus on future|
|Healing work||Growth work|
|Relief from pain||Pursuit of passion|
|Pathology and diagnosis||Health and wholeness|
|Medical model||Growth model|
|Therapist responsibility||Client responsibility|
|More supportive||More ‘edgy’|
|More stigma||Less stigma|
|Billed to insurance||Self pay|
Do you only coach clergy?
Absolutely not. We have a passion for working with pastors/clergy, but the training of a coach is not specific to any field of work. We are delighted to work with anyone who has a passion for developing themselves, moving towards their God-given goals or discovering what those might be!
What can a client be coached on?
You can be coached on whatever you want, but the topics that we most often coach on with pastors are self-care, balance, time management, discernment, spiritual growth, taking sabbath, realistic expectations, burnout, isolation in ministry, goal setting, organization, call process/transitions, planning for future ministries, bullying, first call, visioning, inner critic/martyr, retirement planning and dealing with difficult people.
What can a client expect in a "typical" session with a Life Coach?
You’ll meet two to three times a month. You’ll choose what you want to work on, the action steps you want to take and set your own pace. We will review the prep form that you have already sent. We go into our conversation digging into the goals that you have listed which can include using coaching questions and/or brainstorming. The coach helps you focus your ideas into goals and action steps, offers a listening ear and challenging questions that get you thinking, and provides the support and accountability you need to follow through. During this time we will also consider possible obstacles that might prevent you from moving forward to where you want to be and figure out how to remove them. We will then agree on an action plan and figure out an accountability plan. Occasionally there will be specific “homework” that will need to be done between sessions. As always, it will be up to the client to determine the trajectory of each session. You are always in charge of what you want to work on. We most often close our time together with prayer.
How are sessions conducted?
Either over the phone or in person.
How long is each session?
Sessions are scheduled for 45 minutes.
Are you available to talk with me between sessions?
Yes, via email and spot calls.
Are the sessions confidential?
Absolutely…we abide by the International Coach Federation’s Code of Ethics which maintains strict confidentiality.
Do you coach people of any denomination?
Yes! All are welcome!
Can I coach with you if I am personally acquainted with you?
There is not the issue of dual relationships in coaching that exists in a counseling situation as the coach walks alongside the client and is not in a position of authority or power, so it is not a problem to coach with any of our coaches.
How much does the coaching cost?
The cost of coaching is $100 for a 45-minute session. The typical client starts with coaching twice a month to get momentum and usually switches over to one time a month after 3 – 6 months depending on the situations they are coming with to coaching. There are some grant monies available to help to subsidize rostered ministers of the ELCA. Contact Clergy Life Coaching for more information on fees and subsidies.
How do I pay for my sessions?
The majority pay with VISA/Mastercard, some pay with check. Sessions need to be prepaid so checks need to be received before the sessions take place.
How do I fund my sessions?
Many of our clients get some kind of help from their congregation in the form of using their continuing education money, money from a foundation or sponsor and even some church councils themselves have paid for their pastor to experience the benefits of coaching. Some pastors simply pay for it themselves. There are also subsidies available for rostered leaders of the ELCA.
Do I need to be a certain age to receive coaching?
Yes, you need to be 18 years of age.